10 Lessons Learned By Just Living Life

The new decade has just begun, which means you get another good chance to start over. The past ten years may not have been the best years of your life, but the opening of the new decade will tell you that you are going to get the chance to try again. 

Every lesson learned will be charged to your experience. Everything that you went through has touched your life in more ways than you can imagine. Some things may have gone your way, but many may have not. That's okay. 

There are certainly a lot of things to learn in life. And as long as you are open to wanting more, then the learning never stops. If you look back, there might be more things that you learned than just these ten on the list. 

Here's your take away for just living your life:

Your uniqueness will mean your survival.

Have you asked yourself, “what have I learned in the past decade?” Life is simple. It is your passion for something that fuels imagination and creativity, and if you follow what everyone else is passionate about, you will never get things right. The things that you love to do are the very things that will make you survive. It may not be a popular opinion, but it definitely makes you stand out above the rest. Bank on your uniqueness for it is the only thing that will make you survive and thrive in this challenging life. 

You may not be as essential as you think.

If you depend so much on other people's opinions, then you are treading the wrong path. Remember this: you are not as relevant to others as you think you are. In fact, they could forget about you one minute and only remember you when they need something from you. This is the truth both professionally and personally because the world doesn't revolve around you. People can go on with their lives as if you were never a part of it. So, go ahead and live your life like you want to. Stop obsessing about what they think and start working on what's important to you. 

You are anxious, but you're not dying.

Never ignore the signs of anxiety. If you worry too much about how things would turn out or if others would understand you if you say something a certain way, then you are definitely suffering from too much anxiety. Take the time to listen to yourself. Your body will tell you what it needs. Allow yourself to feel things. Visit the doctor or talk to a therapist. Chances are that you are not dying and things are not as hopeless as you think they are. But if you know that you need help, don’t hesitate to reach out to someone you trust.

You're rejected, not for being you.

Never take rejections personally because they are never about who you are. One rejection should never define who you are, nor should it be an expression of how much you are worth. One of the greatest lessons about love is that you have to learn to accept rejections. Sometimes, people don't love us back the way we want them to, not because of who we are. They can't love us that way, and that's simply a fact. Unless you accept that, you'd be in intense emotional trouble. 

You can have everything you want and still feel the same way. 

Imagine yourself ten years ago wishing for everything that you have right now. How do you feel? You got everything you ever hoped for - a successful career, a lovely apartment, a substantial amount of savings. You basically have a happy life, but does it feel the same? You should be proud of yourself for all that you've accomplished, but remember that not everything you want is going to satisfy you. Make sure to know the difference between what you want and what will make you feel alive. 

Being on your own is important.

Being alone and being happy with it is important because while every person you have in your life plays a huge role in making you the person that you are, no matter what they do or contribute in your life, the ultimate person you need to survive is yourself. You have to be okay with the fact that you are alone in this world. Take on this journey and keep your head held high. After all, being alone does not mean you are sad. In fact, you should be at your happiest when you are with yourself. 

Work on improving yourself both inside and out 

Society demands every man and woman to look a certain way. Most people sweat it out at the gym or starve themselves to death to achieve the body that society considered as "acceptable," especially for women. And yet, in life, nobody survives more than those with a good heart and a strong brain. You can't look beautiful without the skills to survive. If it doesn't help calm the soul, then don't do it, even if others say you should. 

Don't worry about getting old. 

Take it as a blessing. Every day you live, your life is a blessing in disguise. Whether you are in your early thirties or late fifties, your age should never matter. You may need more vitamins or take in more food supplements, but that's because your body requires it. But never worry about getting old because age comes with wisdom. Everything you learned in the past will teach you that there are more important things in life than just worrying about aging. So if you’re thinking of having a drink to relax, go ahead and drink that bottle of beer, and make sure you enjoy every moment of it. 

You become what you think. 

Think positively no matter how tough life may get. Take the time to visualize who you want to be in the coming years. Put it in writing if you want. You can make things happen as you wish, and this may sound crazy, but it is the truth. Be your own passionate planner, and think about the many things you can be. 

It doesn’t matter if you haven’t figured things out yet.

Don't stress yourself too much. You may act like everyone else who thinks they got their lives figured out, but they haven't. So stop stressing and start living. You will achieve the clarity that you need in time. Allow life to unravel itself and celebrate it when it happens. You don’t need to figure out everything right away. Trust in the process that things will fall into place at the right time.