How to Heal a Broken Heart

Maybe you’re in a situation right now where you tell yourself, “I am heartbroken.” While you may think that this love breakup is the worst of its kind, take comfort in the fact that all of us experience this kind of hurt at least once in our lives. Perhaps you’re going through your first heartbreak, or you’re in the midst of a troublesome divorce. The end of a relationship is painful.

Your distress, anguish, and other intense emotions are natural. You just lost someone you’ve felt deep feelings for, and you may think that your world is never going to be the same. But know that you will bounce back. You may not believe it right now, but this pain will help you become a stronger individual. Take this time to focus on yourself. And to help you heal your broken heart, here are some steps to get you started. 

Feel the emotions but don’t dwell

Suppressed emotions have their way of popping out somewhere along the way. You may think that by denying yourself of those feelings, you’re fast-tracking the process of heart healing. But this is not the case. You have to go through whatever it is you’re feeling. If you’re feeling anger, loneliness, or grief, acknowledge them. 

At the same time, don’t dwell on the negativity that comes with such feelings. Try your best to go on with your life, and keep yourself busy. Start doing activities you once loved when you were single. You have so much freedom now, and you should celebrate that. Whenever the feelings pop up, say to yourself that “This is anger” or “This is sadness” and move on. It’s important to recognize what you’re feeling but don’t dwell on them. 

Love yourself first

Whether you’ve been through a bad breakup or you’re trying to get over unrequited love, you may easily think of yourself as someone who’s not worthy of love. Never tell yourself that lie. It’s one of those statements that are just not true, and telling that to yourself won’t help you one bit. 

 If the other person did not love you back, it’s not a reflection on you. They are simply not ready for someone awesome like you. And usually, when they’re not ready for another person, it means they’re not ready for themselves. They don’t know themselves too well and, therefore, don’t know what they want from a relationship. 

Learn to love yourself the way that you want to be loved. Don’t wait for another person to make you feel valued. If there’s someone along the way who can make you feel wonderful like that, then that’s just a bonus. What’s most essential is for you to love yourself first. 

Sweat out all your anger and frustrations

Healing hearts often find themselves in the gym and sweating out the negativity. With so many intense feelings inside you, you have to let them out. You may be angry with your ex for breaking your heart. It’s possible that you feel frustrated because you know you’ve done everything for the relationship. But let those feelings go. Again, acknowledge them and then release them. There’s no point holding on.

When you’re at the gym, you can take boxing lessons so you can let out that anger, physically.  Also, you’ll feel tired at the end of each session, but it’s a good kind of tired. You’ll experience better sleep. If the breakup has been causing you sleepless nights, then hit the gym or take a big run. That’s the best way to ensure that you get a good night’s rest and heal properly. 

Cry when you feel to

We’re human. No matter how strong you want to be, you will still feel the pain of a broken heart. If you’re hurt, you don’t have to be ashamed about it. It’s a good reminder that you’re alive, and you’re capable of feeling a wide range of emotions. If you want to cry, then give yourself the chance to do so. 

It’s understandable if you want to project to other people that you’re fine. But when you’re alone by yourself, you don’t have to pretend. Cry if you must. It’s healthy to release those intense feelings. If you have a trusted friend, then you can also talk to him or her so that you can process your emotions. 

Write about it

Keeping a journal and writing regularly in it is therapeutic, especially if you’re going through something difficult like a breakup. It’s not all the time that our friends are available to listen to us. That’s why it’s vital to learn how to be by yourself and take the time that you have to reflect. You can do that by journaling. 

What’s great about writing in your journal is that there are no rules. Write as many or as little as you wish. You can write a narrative or just the bullet points. Whatever is comfortable for you, please do it. Start by being honest with yourself. You can start by writing down, “I am heartbroken. But this is only temporary.” And then start listing down the things you can do for yourself so you can be happy again. 

Final Thoughts

It’s tough to go through the pain of being broken-hearted. But it’s a fact of life that the relationships we try to nourish will not all be successful. It’s not just with a significant other but also with friends, colleagues, and even family members. We’re all unique individuals with so many differences. It’s bound to happen that some misunderstandings or fights can sever the relationship. 

Keep in mind that you only have yourself to count on. Don’t rely on another person to make you feel loved and valued. It’s your responsibility to make yourself feel that. You have all the capabilities to be an independent individual. Please make the most of it. Lastly, never make this heartbreak turn you into a bitter person. When love arrives, welcome it. This time, you’re more ready to accept another person in your life because you are whole by yourself.